It’s okay to be single!

Most people enjoy being single but might feel pressured when their friends have boyfriends or girlfriends.

You might just feel you are not ready to date someone or you might not like someone in that way. It’s OK. If someone likes you, just explain that you are not ready to date anyone exclusively. You might be willing to hang out with them as a friend, or you might not. Remember, it’s your choice.

It is important that you tell anyone interested in you that you are not ready for a serious commitment from the onset. If someone is pressuring you or treating you unfairly because you aren’t interested in them, tell a parent/carer, teacher or friend. It is important that someone you can trust knows what’s going on. They might be able to even speak to the person and make them see the situation from your point of view.

Being single is fun

At first you might feel left out if all your friends have girlfriends or boyfriends but don’t let this stop you from having fun.

Join organisations or groups or start a hobby. This way you will get to meet new people too. Make sure you tell your friends how you feel and you can arrange a ‘friends day’ where you spend it together without the partner.

You don’t have to be left out or stop being friends. If your friend asks you to go somewhere with them and their partner, go along. They wouldn’t have asked you if they didn’t want you there. It will also show your friend how you support their relationship and you can get to know their partner too.

Remember, the right person will come along when you’re ready. In the meantime enjoy yourself and do what you want to do.

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