Bullying at school

Bullying goes on in schools all over the country, but that doesn’t mean that it is right and it also doesn’t mean that you have to put up with it.

Bullying at school can take many different forms and can make the person being bullied feel frightened, depressed, and nervous and feel like not wanting to go to school at all.

If you are being bullied, don’t feel that it is you that has done something wrong. The people bullying you may have problems and bullying other people is their way of getting their anger out. Whatever the reason for this behaviour the people bullying you themselves probably need help to stop acting so aggressively towards others.

If you are being bullied it can be hard to tell anyone about it but it won’t stop unless you do.

Forms of bullying

Bullying can come in many different forms. It is not always name-calling or physical force. Some other behaviours that are seen as bullying include:

  • Stealing or damaging someone’s belongings.
  • Spreading false rumours around to embarrass a person or try and get them into trouble.
  • Threatening or intimidating someone.
  • Sending offensive text messages or emails.

How to stop bullying

Talk to the people that are there for you and tell them how you are feeling about the bullying. Your parents or carers know you better than anyone. If you are feeling worried or depressed about being bullied, they will probably have noticed a change in the way you have been acting. Once they know how you are feeling they will be able to speak to your teachers and sort the problem out.

It is important that you speak to a member of staff that you like and trust. They will know the best way to handle the bullying and make sure that the negative behaviour towards you stops.

Tell your friends how you are feeling. Maybe they know of someone else who is being bullied and you can get together and talk to a member of staff together.

Many people who bully will wait until you are on your own before they approach you. This is because they know that you are more vulnerable alone than when you are with a group of friends and also this way there is less chance of other people seeing what they are doing to you. Because of this, try to stay with your friends as much as you can during the day and also on the way to and from school. You are always safer in numbers.

You should enjoy your time at school but if you are being bullied you will soon start to dread going each day. By telling someone about what is happening you are standing up to the bullying.

 Being bullied by someone of the opposite sex is just as harmful and wrong as any other form of bullying.

You might be being bullied by someone of the opposite sex and feel too embarrassed to tell anybody. Or perhaps you feel that you should be able to deal with the situation yourself – or that people will think you’re weak if you report the bullying.

As with all bullying, you should never feel that you have to suffer in silence. You might be physically stronger than a bully, but that doesn’t mean it’s right to react with violence or that you should have to cope with the situation on your own.

Speak to someone you trust, such as a family member, carer, teacher, boss or colleague (depending on where the bullying is taking place) and get the situation dealt with as soon as possible. It’s the bully that’s in the wrong, not you.

 

 

Sexuality bullying

If you are being picked on verbally, emotionally or physically because of your sexuality then you do not have to put up with it. Whether you fancy boys, girls or both, you’re entitled to lead a happy and safe life just like everybody else.

If you are being picked on verbally, emotionally or physically because of your sexuality then you do not have to put up with it. Whether you fancy boys, girls or both, you’re entitled to lead a happy and safe life just like everybody else.

Schools and workplaces have to make sure everyone has the same opportunities, regardless of their sexuality. So if bullying means that your education or work performance is being affected, you have every right to report it and to expect the situation to be dealt with effectively.

If you experience homophobic bullying, hold your head high and be proud of who you are. Don’t stoop to the bully’s level by engaging in arguments or violence; instead, report the bullying to someone you trust, who can help you deal with the situation.

Who can help?

Talk to your parents, carers, teachers or someone else that you trust. Remember that they are there to help you and they’ll do everything they can to put the situation right.

Bullying UK is available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, and 365 days a year to answer your e-mails on any aspect of bullying. http://www.bullying.co.uk/index.php/young-people/advice/introduction-to-bullying.html.

Kidscape is a national charity committed to keeping children safe from bullying and abuse. Their helpline – 08451 205 204 – is available at a local rate from 10.00am-4.00pm, Monday-Friday. You can also visit their site at http://www.kidscape.org.uk/childrenteens/index.asp.

ChildLine is the free 24-hour helpline for children and young people in the UK. You can call 0800 1111 about any problem you might be having, at any time – day or night. You can also visit the Bullying section of their website.

The teachernet website has information for pupils, their families and teachers on how to tackle bullying.

The BBC Radio 1 website is full of helpful advice on bullying. Visit the site http://www.bbc.co.uk/radio1/bullyproof/

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