Everyone deals with the death of someone close them in different ways.
If you have recently lost someone you were close to, advice coming from all directions about how best to cope can be conflicting and confusing and can leave you feeling like nobody really understands what you are going through. But there is real support out there for you.
If you’ve lost someone close to you
There are people who can help you deal with your loss, who acknowledge that there is no ‘right’ way to feel. Your feelings will probably change over time, but there is no limit to how long you should feel that way. Even if your feelings do change it does not mean that the person you’ve lost becomes any less important to you.
It can feel like you are dealing with your loss on your own, especially if you are trying not to show your feelings to stay strong for other people affected. The ‘Road for You’ site (see the link on this page) is designed for young people coping with a loss. You can share your experiences and feelings or see how other people in a similar situation have coped. You can also talk to trained staff on the website or ring their confidential free phone line on 0808 808 1677.
If someone you know has lost someone
It can be difficult to know how to act around someone who has just lost a loved one. It is understandable if you want to comfort and help that person, but remember that everyone’s reactions to bereavement are different. Even if you have been in a similar situation don’t presume to understand what they are going through.
The best thing you can do is let that person know that you are there for them. If they do come to you for advice other than just wanting to talk things through, you could point them in the direction of any of the links on this page, where they can get support and advice from people who are experienced and qualified to help.
Who can help?
You can contact RD4U via their website at www.rd4u.org.uk/ or by phone at 0808 808 1677.
You can contact Childline via their website at www.childline.org.uk or by phone at 0800 11 11.
Visit the Child Bereavement website at www.childbereavement.org.uk